In Chapter Four of Questioning Gender: A Social Exploration, Robyn Ryle begs the question, “How do we learn gender?”  It’s an issue addressed throughout the text book and throughout our society what becomes our definition of man and women; female and male.  Is sex different than gender?  We are in a society where you cannot tell who sex a person is by sampling look at them and just because they are a certain sex does not mean they don’t identify with a different gender.  Gender identity to quote Ryle, “ …a way of describing how gender becomes internal—something that becomes an integral part of who we are.”  Just because someone is born with a penis should not prevent them from identifying as a woman.  The other day I was watching True Life: I’m Transgender and I was astonished.  These people on this program I would have labeled as man and woman were not.  They were undergoing a sex change operation to help themselves fit the gender norm that they identified with.  Then I began to question what defines a man and woman; do you really need to undergo an operation to feel like who you are? You are changing you to what you think you should be to fit society’s description as what gender is.  But if I have learned anything from this Questioning Gender textbook and what we see in society, the separation line of gender is blurring.  The definition of man and woman are changing.  It’s nice to think that we can’t judge a book by its cover anymore, now you have to get to know a person from the inside out and not let gender hinder your judgment.  It is an idealist thought, but take a look at this Maury episode…can you tell the difference?  The truth of the matter is that you won’t know until you talk to the person and get to know them.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vcqhPJHwv8E